Since finding out you are pregnant, this is likely the conversation that you have been dreading. Even if you have a great relationship with your parents and are really close, you are probably still concerned with how they will react to your news. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the conversation.
It is important to break the news in a calm environment.
Start the conversation and be straightforward. You might choose to say something along the lines of, “This is very difficult for me to tell you, but I am pregnant. I know this isn’t what you or I expected or wanted at this time in my life, but it happened. I know you are upset, but I wanted to confide in you.”
It is impossible to guess exactly how your parents will react. Some parents’ initial reactions might be very emotional with anger, shock, and sadness. They might cry, yell, or say things they don’t really mean. They are still processing the news and it might take them a couple of days to calm down and wrap their heads around it. In a few days, they might have a very different response and may ultimately regret their initial reaction, especially if they reacted in anger. Even if they had a strong reaction, most parents want to help their children and will be supportive of you.
Give your parents time to process. Let them speak without jumping in. Listen to them, and let them vent or lecture you. Share your fears and worries. It is ok if the words don’t come out quite like you practiced or envisioned, or if you begin to cry. Remember, talking to your parents about this takes courage and maturity. You are strong and can do this!
Talk to your parents about your options and listen to their ideas. Whatever you decide, it needs to be what you want.
If you need help talking to your parents, Focus Women’s Center is happy to direct you to an organization that can help you break the news to your parents in a safe, supportive environment. Call or text us at 815-322-1585.